Relationship Therapy
 
How you may be feeling

Relationships are important to all of us & while they can be the source of the greatest joy in our life, they can also be the source of the greatest pain.

Every relationship has its ups & downs but at times, the downs can bring us to a place where we reach an impasse & become stuck in either a conflict or a cold war. Maybe you have taken one another for granted & have stopped talking about anything but the practicalities of life & therefore you’ve lost touch.

Marriage therapy or couples counselling is designed to help you work through relationship or communication problems and create emotional closeness. We help couples understand the emotional needs of each partner, meet each other’s need, and learn tools to negotiate differences, problem solve and work through conflict in a healthier way to gain and maintain a deeper level of intimacy and closeness.

Premarriage or premarital counseling can help dating or engaged partners understand their differences and resolve differences before marriage so they can have the tools to create a happy and healthy marriage from the start.

Common issues we help couples work through are:

* Healing from infidelity
* Divorce and remarriage
* Loss of Sexual Intimacy
* Emotional Disconnection
* Infidelity & Betrayal
* Healing from addictions
* Physical or mental conditions
* Same-sex relationship issues
* Cultural clashes
* Finances
* Unemployment
* Blended families
* Communication problems
* Conflicts about child rearing
* General Conflict
* Anger
* Changing roles, such as
   retirement

There are times when significant relationships aren’t working and you wonder what to do to make them better. 
Sometimes, they’ve simply given up, moved apart physically or emotionally, and don’t know how to get back the joy they once had with their partner.

This is when Relationship Therapy can be helpful.




 
How we can help

Relationship therapy can encourage you to start communicating with each other in ways that are constructive.

Couples often have different ideas about what the problem is in the relationship and don’t realize that until coming in for couples’ therapy. When you and your partner come in for counselling with us, we talk about what isn’t working and how each of you sees the problem. We also take a look at how each of you feels in the relationship.

We then find ways to work on communicating with each other, listening to each other, and understanding the value of compromises that work for both of you. In this way, couples’ therapy can help you begin to create a relationship that works.

Your therapist will support you to actually listen to each other, inviting you both to share your thoughts on & personal experiences within the relationship & encouraging you to shift the focus from that of one-upmanship & blame, to the goal of seeking to really understand each other.

Individual sessions might be offered as part of the process to help you to better understand yourself. Once the roots of the issues have been explored, strategies & homework tasks may be discussed to support your mutual understanding, & ultimately your reconnection. In this way, things start to feel much less personal & therefore less heated, & from this calmer position you can find out what the best way forward for you both is going to be.




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What can relationship therapy help with?

Relationship therapy can be useful in addressing any issue that can arise between two people, in any type of relationship or partnership.

All relationships go through difficult times & in this fast paced world, it is so easy for us to become disconnected from the people who are most important to us. Relationship therapy offers you a way to reconnect & to work through the problems that have arisen between you & your loved one in a safe, non-judgmental & unbiased environment.

It may sound strange, but it is often the case that one of the hardest things to do in an established relationship is to really listen to what our loved one is saying. This is because we are often personally invested in them either seeing things, or feeling, a certain way. All too easily we put our own spin on their words, mistakenly take offense because of an earlier upset that we didn’t address with them at the time, or skirt over what they’ve said because we worry that if we stay with it, we may be ultimately blamed for how it is they are feeling. And so the distance between us grows.

Therapy can help to bridge this gap. You’ll be encouraged to think honestly & openly about your relationship: the joys & the pains, what works for you, what doesn’t & what you both need to happen, so that things between you can improve.
Your therapist is there to help you to communicate clearly & to mediate where disagreements arise. In doing so, you can reach a deeper understanding of each other, learning why you both respond in the ways that you do & how to better navigate the areas of conflict. Through this process it is possible to find a way forward that respects each person’s feelings & needs.

There is often the misconception that relationship therapy is just about helping couples to stay together. This is not always the case. The goal of relationship therapy is to help you to find the best way forward for both of you & in circumstances where the best thing to do is to separate, relationship therapy can be used to help you to do so in the most amicable & healthy way possible.